Friday, March 4, 2011

clash of the sexes


here. tajuk macam apa. haha. well, i am not being sexist lahh. here's a book review.



"MAN DOWN" by Dan Abrams

okay saja je font tu kalau bole kasi largest. haha. sound kejam sikit kott. 

test power ke. tak sempat2 tukar sports outfit tuh.

hoh ni lagi hebat terus masuk track dah.

"Contrary to jokes and one-liners, women are better drivers than menThey’re also better at getting the joke. And better with hammers. And video games. And social networking. And did we mention, they get dressed faster than guys? This isn’t opinion, it’s fact, and Dan Abrams can prove it." heh. banyak benor ekau punya "and and and" Dan Abrams ooii. haha.

huh. FOKUS habis. terer2. ngeh ngeh. terbelalak mata macam nak tersembul dah.

tuu dia. multitasking tuh. haha. berbakat sungguh. tengok2 jap lagi pokok tumbang atas kereta.

okay. back then, ladies memang duduk dapur duduk rumah jadi surirumahtangga bertauliah sepenuhmasa kan. while men semua lahh yang keluar cari duit buat kerja itu ini dan ada peluang nak tengok dunia. i personally believe that, dulu, women bukan tak mampu. tapi tak ada opportunities untuk belajar semua. untuk look what's in the outside world. okay. memang tak galakkan perempuan keluar rumah tapi bukan bermaksud peluang untuk belajar dan tahu semua benda juga perlu hadkan kan? so today, i guess everything's changed. FEMALEs are somehow BETTER than MALEs in some fields, and could be better than males in any other fields. 

tak setuju! muahahaha. *feminist sungguh*

agreed? the book i mean. sure! men sendiri yang admit benda ni. see, the authour of the book is a man. 

“In nearly every field, statistics and studies show that women are better collaborators, are more cautious and more adept at navigating treacherous terrain,” writes Abrams in his book’s opening statement. “I am not convinced that women as a group play basketball or read maps better than men. The evidence here will show, however, that women are living longer and evolving better than men.” It takes a lot for a man to admit his own weaknesses (there’s a chapter on how women tolerate pain better), so we wondered why Abrams would make the case for women. Turns out, it’s a man’s job.

yeah2. hari ini nashihin hanis memang merepek sahaja. entry berterabur tanpa ada plot arrangement yang betul semua. abaikan. fair enough, just nak show that since women pun tak laa teruk sangat dlm sports, automotives etc. so, men tak boleh laa nak rendah-rendahkan women lagi. 

as said in a hadith,
"Apabila seorang perempuan mendirikan sembahyang lima waktu, berpuasa sebulan (Ramadhan), menjaga kehormatan dan taat kepada suami, dia akan disuruh memasuki syurga melalui mana-mana pintu yang dia sukai." [Hadis Riwayat Ahmad]

"Islam telah meletakkan maruah dan kedudukan wanita pada tempat yang mulia. Sungguh bertentangan dengan nilai dan eksploitasi yang ditunjukan oleh Barat. Allah telah mewujudkan peranan antara lelaki dan wanita yang berbeza-beza namun kedua-duanya seiring penting. Tidak berperanan salah satu maka pincanglah semua." -iluvislam-

senang cerita, martabat perempuan ni tinggi. jadi, jaga diri dan jaga hati. sebab kalau tak, jadi macam rama-rama(bila cakap pasal rama-rama atau apa2 yang indah lagi gorgeous dan menawan harus guna font pink). bila hilang sayap yang cantik, hilanglah harga yang tinggi tu. bila sayapnya disentuh oleh tangan-tangan kotor, terus rosak. kita taknak jadi macam ni kan? ehem. kenapa nashihinhanis masuk mode serius ala ustazah pulak ni. abaikan juga. =)

as in surah al-ahzab verse 35,
"Sesungguhnya lelaki dan perempuan Muslim, laki-laki dan perempuan yang tetap dalam ketaatannya, laki-laki dan perempuan yang benar, laki-laki dan perempuan yang sabar, Allah menyediakan untuk mereka ampunan yang besar."

kat sini pun dah tunjuk Allah tak berat sebelah. everything's fair and square regardless the gender. jadi, kenapa manusia pulak yang nak obsess lebih2 tentang kaum masing2. semua sama je. 

"sesungguhnya yang paling mulia antara kamu adalah yang paling bertakwa."

see. kan dah cakap semua tak penting. jantina, bangsa, cun or tak cun, tak dipandang pun. malahan jadi ujian lagi adalah. (okay. mula tak faham kata-kata sendiri. apa ni hanis.. hehe.) contoh. kalau orang tu cantik, tak semestinya hidup dia senang. fine, ramai orang pandang and suka. tapi, mata-mata yang pandang tu semua baik ke. susah nak jaga diri. conclusion, tak kisahlah macam mana pun, semua orang ada kelebihan and kekurangan. lacking here and there tak semestinya satu keburukan. it may be an advantage if you look on the bright side. contoh, orang kerja kilang ke, buruh ke, gaji memang tak seberapa. tapi kalau nak compare dengan CEO yang bergaji besar, CEO tu tanggungjawab dia berat. so, everything's good actually. it just depends on yourself and how you see it.

haa. kan dah jauh menyimpang dari topic tu. haha. takpe. pagi2 memang suka melalut. (pagi? hehe. =.=")

okay. back to the topic.

socrates once said,
"Kewujudan wanita menjadi punca utama krisis dan kemerosotan dunia. Mereka ibarat sebatang pokok beracun. Di luar nampak cantik, tetapi sebaik sahaja seekor burung memakannya, ia mati pada masa itu juga."
(Dipetik daripada buku: Apa kata Islam Mengenai Wanita Berpolitik)

and that's how the west manipulates women. in what way pulak manipulates. okay, contoh. ambassador products, female kan selalunya. agak2 kenapa? i've read somewhere, for them, women are just perhiasan (harus font pink lagi kerana perhiasan memang beautiful). tapi, bila they use women as macam nak promote barang, dalam tak sedar macam nak samakan taraf perempuan dengan barang tu pulak. Fenomena eksploitasi wanita ini semakin meningkat dengan jajaran masa yang mendorong wanita membebaskan diri dari tanggungjawab asal hakikat penciptaannya iaitu sebagai isteri, ibu, pendidik generasi pelapis, serta sayap kiri perjuangan suamiEksploitasi ini berlaku sehingga wanita akhirnya telah memasuki "alam" lelaki yang bertentangan dengan fitrah asal kejadiannya.

hoyeah. ini smart!

"wanita yang bersifat lemah lembut adalah wanita yang mempunyai hati yang kuat, bisa melentur namun sulit untuk dipatahkan serta mampu hidup berdikari. " -Professor Medley-


ambik kau gambar best. haha. ridiculous lahh tapi. tak lawo le kalau bermuscle gitu. estrogen hormone kan menyekat pertumbuhan muscle melampau. haa haa. gambar ni tak normal. okay2. menyimpang lagi. back to the talking. lemah-lembut does't mean lembik. tak semestinya kena garang jadi singa baru consider as tabah. strong outside, doesn't mean strong inside, and soft outside, doesn't mean soft inside. hati. mana boleh baca kan. mana tau kalau orang tu mis universe sekalipun, demure and graceful je tengok, tapi sebenarnya dia ada black belt. hehe. takdelaa. sebenarnya kalau dia senyum all the time, dalam hati mana nak tau kalau dia ada masalah sebesar dan serumit stonehenge ke. haha. merapu lagi kome ni hanis oi. 

ohmygucci yang ini gorgeous habis lahh. aww. how adorable. teeeeet. perempuan memang adorable. eheh. okay tak. sebenarnya nak cakap. kan da gtau tadi perempuan senyum tak semestinya hati pun berbunga. faham itu?

wawawa. gagah perkasa! haha. ke sebenarnya kat atas tu ada tali gantung dumbbell bijak gedabak ni. hehehe.

okay2 serious balik. ehem. women is made strong enough but in a different way from men. jadi, kuat tak semestinya perempuan tu kena act boyish. haha. hanis kau condemn diri sendiri ke. awak tu pun ganas jugak. eh eh. bukan. ganas and tomboy lain. perwatakan ganas sikit2 maybe sebab surrounding punya influence. tapi sampai 100% in total nak mengubah diri tu kenapa. just follow the fitrah is the best way kan. ececeh. nak membela diri ke apa ni sebenarnya nashihinhanis. haha. takde2. i'm talking general je. hehe.

hoh. ni lagi laa. berubah seratus-peratus. determined sungguh cik puan ni ye. lama sangat duk hutan tak jumpa shaver laa tu. 

Historical, philosophical debates have led to reams of research on the subject. Today, medications that were tested only on men are no longer assumed to have the same effects in women. memang laa. kalau kau test menstrual pill tu kasi kat boyfriend kau apa faedah? heh. takde2 gurau. sila jangan buat. Professionals no longer consider women as defective or deviant if they don't follow the male path of psychological development. But it was considered the norm for years, even by some women in the psychoanalytic field. Even as we learn to better study our differences, much tension remains surrounding our failures to fully understand and appreciate them. So our biases as men or women creep into how we see many situations. We also deal in stereotypes, where we assume all men or all women are alike. We sometimes forget that we're far more different as individuals than we are alike according to our gender. fairly equal doesn't really have to mean equally alike kan. haha. tu lahh. siapa suruh nak jadi sama sangat. kan dah huduh rupa berjambang gitu. 

cehh. nak cakap lelaki makin tua makin hott lahh?

There is, however, usually at least one grain of truth in stereotypes. Furthermore, research continues to document gender differences in generalities. For example, women are much more likely to go to the doctor and be admitted to hospitals than men. Yet, although they have been labeled the “weaker sex” for generations, they outlive men on average, lending weight to the old saying, “Women get sick; men just die.” hohoho kasihan. The culprit? Research shows the need for men, especially young men, to include dominance over others in their definition of masculinity. This means they are not supposed to be (or even appear to be) vulnerable to others. One recently published study of Scottish men concluded, “It's caveman stuff, but that is to a certain extent how guys still operate,” in describing their subjects' reluctance to seek help. hohoh. mati cepat. betul pun. bukan laa kepercayaan karut je. perempuan kan ada blood circulation yang baik. eheh. faham ya? ;p

Women live an average of five years longer than men. The reasons for this are both genetic and behavior-based. First of all, women have stronger immune systems, again due to estrogen which aids the fight against disease-inducing enzymes. But women are also less likely to engage in risky behavior. For example, I found that women are hit by lightning less often than men. That’s because the guy may not get off the roof when there’s a thunderstorm coming. hah. padan muka. mak dah suruh masuk rumah bila ada guruh tapi degil jugak. kan dah mati kena sambar petir.

hoh tu. membebel. perempuan biaselahh. ehem2 look who's talking laa. heeeee~

Women are twice as likely as men to suffer from depression or attempt suicide. However, they are also far more likely than men to report depressive symptoms. Studies also show most of their suicide gestures are not a true wish to die, but a desperate attempt to force change in their circumstances. cehh cehh. saja je buat gimmick sebenarnya kasi orang menggelabah. "i mesti laa nak hidup lama lagi. i nak pergi shopping semua2 tu." itu lahh sebenarnya yang tersirat. women kan more tersirat and men more direct. haha. sila faham the opposite sex kalau anda nak hidup bahagia bersama mereka. though, i agree that it's kinda tough to understand the opposites. no offense! hahah. ;D

"men 'hibernate and stew and keep it all in,' whereas women are 'compelled to discuss everything'.”  -Carol Wallace-

haa ni laahh perempuan. stress menjerit-jerit memanjang. haih. diri sendiri kah? ish2. mana ada. takde takde. wekk wekk. haha. taknak ngaku~

haha. nama pun perempuan. logiklahh emotional terlebih. kadang2 sampai satu dunia tahu. lelaki pulak ego melampau. konon tabah. tapi kadang2 menangis bawah bantal jugak sebenarnya tu. ngaku cepat. takyah nak ego. haha. semua orang kan ada perasaan. logik laa rasa sedih marah semua. emosi kan. eh2 hanis yang orang semua kata kau heartless tu? eh2 pulak. heartless. hehe. saya pun ada sedikit perasaan ye anda2 sekalian. tapi tak tunjuk lebih je. kaku gitu. eheh. kerek sikit pun ye jugak. alahh. tapi lama2 kau orang kenal aku, aku ni sebenarnya kepoh je kalau ada hal. takdelahh buat muka iceberg memanjang. zombie ke apa? stopp!! sila kembali ke topik, terima kasih. okay. without further ado, ececeh. da macam presiden bagi ucapan je. hohoho. haa. tu kan melalut lagi. hanis!! okay2.

hah. mengumpat. biaselahh. ni pun rutin harian jugak. ehem2 tidak bagus okay. sekadar meluah perasaan cukup berkadar-kadar terhad sahaja ye.

Carol's quote doesn't suggest that men have fewer emotions than women — only that they address them less often. They are more likely to deny them, even to themselves, as they try to diminish the power that emotions hold over our choices. This very denial leads men who have experienced a trauma to unrealistically declare themselves “over it” simply because they don't have access to their feelings. But the energy consumed by this denial leaves them disconnected from themselves and others. This leaves men with fewer tools with which to heal emotionally. Many (if not most) returning veterans, mostly men, have great difficulty in accepting that war, by its very nature, is a trauma that takes its toll on one's humanity. When these veterans can't talk about this truth, and the many feelings that go with it, they are far more likely to be afflicted with problems such as clinical depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. hoh. tu lahh. sembunyi2 lagi sedih tu. kan dah stress sorang2. aii hanis. kau tu pun selalu stress sorang2 jugak lahh. cehh. 0ooppss! ;p

haiyoo. bergaduh pulak. hah. lawan2. siapa menang taktau.

okay, back to the book.

nampak kan yang zaman sekarang ni makin ramai perempuan masuk bidang lelaki. personally, i don't think it's a crime. sebab apa2 pun ilmu kan. and lelaki tak payah laa nak terasa inferior pulak kalau your girl tu better than you. (azuan, ada orang pernah bagitau aku kau rasa inferior. dulu. bukan sekarang. sekarang normal. dulu je okay. kalau kau tak rasa pun sebenarnya, jangan marah aku. orang yang cakap. hehe.) well, normal laa lelaki punya ego memang setinggi niagara. tapi, takyah laa. nothing's harmful pun. your lady loves you as you are. tak kisahlah kalau you kurang bagus dari dia ke apa. take it as a whole, mesti ada sebab dia sayang kau. setakat kalau kau kurang sikit je dari dia dalam satu aspect,it shouldn't be a problem, and shouldn't cause a mess, right? okay, nashihin hanis anda lari topik lagi. fine2. abaikan lagi.

heh. hamik kau semua perempuan. hanis toksah nak gebang. girl's college kan sebenarnya. haa haa. tak tau tak tau. ;p

ini lagi satu hal. tengok tuu lelaki fikir apa. hahaha. dah tu kalau perempuan dapat nombor satu dalam kelas nak inferior pulak. tapi, perempuan pun kerja berangan je. cuma otak bersih sikit kott. hehehe. btw, cokelat sedap! shopping seronok! weeeeeeee~~~

hoh. ni kau penjelasan. hahaha. heaven sangat dah laa tu kalau dapat "patchi" sebaldi. hokeh2. paling low pun kasi laa KINDER BUENO. bankrup laki aku kot mengidam nak makan patchi sampai 60hengget sekilo. 

*gambar hiasan. tiada kena-mengena dengan yang masih hidup mahupun sudah meninggal dunia. ngee. takyah nak terasa. ;p*

hoh sungguh panjang entri ini. haha. baek saya mengundur diri sebelum lebih melalut dan merapu dengan gambar pun habis search engine aku geledah and font berwarna-warni berbagai saiz dan bentuk serta rupa konon ceria padahal caca-marba ala funfair haku tengok dah. okeh. ciao peps~

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